Hi Sydney, I hear you on the impulse control issue! I have, thankfully, never been into alcohol, due to my fear for not being in complete control of myself, but I recognize the same tendencies in other areas. Cookies on the table? I'll have half a dozen instead of one. New Amazon Prime show? Let's watch the entire season at once? A good novel? Let's read til 4am until I've finished the book.
Have you heard of The Sober Hive? It's a sobriety community I recently heard of that may be a good place to start. Or search Sobriety in the substack search bar and see what's happening on substack.
I really appreciate you sharing this with such honesty. I’m not a therapist, but I do feel a duty as a fellow human to say this: the fact that you’re willing to slow down and name these questions already feels like a step away from pure impulse. Impulse tends to shove us forward, while intuition whispers — and the way you’re pausing here shows a kind of strength you might not be giving yourself credit for. Even if the trust feels eroded right now, what you’ve written is evidence that you are listening to yourself.
38 years clean , first several yes I attended meetings NA then AA, its about honesty and balance and as long as you dont take the first drug you will stay sober
Maintaining the myth of self sufficiency is a lot of work. We need other people and they need us. The psychologist I was seeing when I first got sober told me that people that don’t go to meetings can stay sober but they are in a much higher risk group. He also said he tells his clients to go to six meetings and then if they hate it they can quit. They always stayed.
Hi Sydney, I hear you on the impulse control issue! I have, thankfully, never been into alcohol, due to my fear for not being in complete control of myself, but I recognize the same tendencies in other areas. Cookies on the table? I'll have half a dozen instead of one. New Amazon Prime show? Let's watch the entire season at once? A good novel? Let's read til 4am until I've finished the book.
Have you heard of The Sober Hive? It's a sobriety community I recently heard of that may be a good place to start. Or search Sobriety in the substack search bar and see what's happening on substack.
I really appreciate you sharing this with such honesty. I’m not a therapist, but I do feel a duty as a fellow human to say this: the fact that you’re willing to slow down and name these questions already feels like a step away from pure impulse. Impulse tends to shove us forward, while intuition whispers — and the way you’re pausing here shows a kind of strength you might not be giving yourself credit for. Even if the trust feels eroded right now, what you’ve written is evidence that you are listening to yourself.
Appreciate this insight. Maybe I don’t have a handle on it yet, but the first step is acknowledge what I’m afraid of right? Thank you for this.
38 years clean , first several yes I attended meetings NA then AA, its about honesty and balance and as long as you dont take the first drug you will stay sober
Maintaining the myth of self sufficiency is a lot of work. We need other people and they need us. The psychologist I was seeing when I first got sober told me that people that don’t go to meetings can stay sober but they are in a much higher risk group. He also said he tells his clients to go to six meetings and then if they hate it they can quit. They always stayed.
Life will leave its mark on us, no matter what.
The choice we have is how we wear it.
Aging is an extraordinary process whereby you become the person you always should have been.